Vegava, I have ADHD but I've also experienced some SA. I know in past relationships including my current marriage, I start out OK with sex then something happens an I totally lose all interest in being physically close. After reaching that threshold sex becomes an activity to be tolerated. I tend to believe that this situation is more directly related to the SA than the ADHD. However, I think the ADHD certainly confounds the situation. Not begin dx as a child, being negatively treated by adults who didn't understand, having various hypersensativities, having guilt about past impulsvity, bah...bah... bah... ADHD often times creates a tangled web of mental disconnections, confusion, social cueing issues, and mistreatment that if left untreated can create dysfunction in other areas.

I would recommend that you seek assistance for this problem. Left untreated it will likely get even more entangled with other issues and maybe never be fixable.