Taking time for yourself is always a good way to start, sending her a card, can help.
Take it from a womans point of view, I have endend best freindships with tears running down my face, and not too long ago maybe a month I had to end one that i love to death, and I would have taken a bullet fro and died on death roll for him.
But you know, as we grow up, and grow older in years, we deattach ourselves to love that we thougth woudl work when the feelin may or may not be returned.
sounds like she is playing with a fire she may not be able to handle, 3 boys at the same time..
Wich one does she truly want, well that is the thing you do need to ask, when and if you start talking to her agin.
Make sure the love you feell for her is not because she is no longer in your life, make sure it is love for wanting her to be with you forever. and if you are truly in love with her as a friend be up front and honest, if you want more tell her.. (this is why she may be messing around) she may want more and you are not giving it ?????

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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