I guess when youre only 16 there isnt much need to check for HPV or cervical cancer yet especially if there is no chance of her having an STD. And my obgyn told me that for women up to age 25, thats one of the main reasons to do the check and they check for all STDs every time you have a check up. But I went to my obgyn whenI was 16 to get birth control and she didnt say anything about it having to do with whether I was a virgin or not. I wasn't a virgin but still.

I understand why he would say its not necessary, but refusing? That seems a little odd. I think if you go in for a test, they should give it to you whether they think its "required" or not. And yes, she needs to learn about SBE and checking yourself for everything else. What happens when she does lose her virginity and has no clue of what to look for? I would think they should do it to at least say "this is what Im looking for... this is what would be here if there were problems..." that type of thing.