Hi Sky

I haven't read " The Abuse Excuse"- I'll have to go look for it-- thank you.

I suppose when I say blame- it's mostly due to the unwillingness of acknowledging a person for their hurt and owning it no matter what the reason was for it. Even if it was an accident- which what happened to me wasn't- but even if it was-- an apology would only be proper. If I accidentally stepped on someone's toe or accidentally hurt their feelings-- I would apologize-- not because I did something "wrong"-- but because I care that they were hurt.

Your thoughts and insight are very thought provoking!!

Thanks,
Mandy