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Originally Posted by chaotic13
Hmmmm...no my T does not make me feel like my thinking is wrong. Some times she will challenge an assumption I've made but not in a way that makes me feel wrong. I'm around people who challenge each others views and statements all the time, maybe I have just learned to deal with it.
But...honestly my T approach to does not seem to be one where she is attempting to directly "change" my thinking. She seems to play the role of an open minded listener and then helps me realize for myself that my assumptions may not be as accurate as I think.
I think it is REALLY hard for people to hear someone else tell them that they are wrong. Even if they successfully convince me that they are right...I still resent the for telling me I was wrong. I would much rather realize for myself that I was wrong and be able to say something like...."you know, now that I think about it I see your point, I was wrong." Not sure if that makes sense or not.
Bottom line... I would struggle working with someone who was always telling me what I was thinking or feeling is wrong.
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So very true. I sometimes wonder what my T even does at all...like she just sits there and listens and accepts everything I say, and lets me control wherever we go...which can be good, except I do a lot of sitting around in silence. BUT, it is so much better than if she was challenging me in any way, because I would run headlong in the other direction.
Today I was telling her how one of my former bosses was really great in that he pushed me in directions I didn't think I was capable of, but somehow knew what I could and could not handle. Even though I was scared most of the time, it turned out ok and I am grateful of that. She said something to the effect of "I can't quite push you like he did..." like she knows I need that extra push, but you can't say no to your boss, but its much easier to say no to a therapist.