kiya, i can see things are really tough. can i ask you something? how do you feel toward the 8 year old? are you angry with her for "getting in the way" of your therapy?
the reason i ask is because someone asked me these questions when some of my littles were coming out and i was getting angry with them because i thought of them as "interfering with our therapy". i had to make some changes and begin to value my littles and respect their need for help too. when i began to be "kind" to them and acknowledge them, a friction/tension inside lessened and things improved. i really do like and appreciate my littles now. they did an awful lot to help me survive extreme abuse and nightmare situations that blow my mind to this day if i think of them.
that 8 year old is you and you are her. maybe you could embrace her and reach out to her. she probably feels just awful and miserable and she doesn't know that "group" is supposed to help. she's just scared to be out there i think.
hugs to all of you kiya!!!!! 
leslie and her pixies
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