Lilah,
your father and others who are duty-bound to provide and help are the ones who are selfish IMO. They should be thanking YOU. Dad especially should say Thank you for finding creative ways to make do with what little guidance and support and recognition I am willing and able to provide. Thank you for NOT falling completely off the edge of reason when I inhibit your maturation and individuation and commit violations against your boundaries. You have likely already outgrown many in your realm as far as perception. Keep talking to the counselor- at least one good benchmark of functional adult behavior and care can still have profound and lasting positive effects on you for life. You sure sound like they have given you a lot to do at home in abdicating the role of parent.