dear Vienna,
here is the whole quote from Dr Lloyd Richmond said - my slight paraphrase to avoid some pretty triggering words -

Keep in mind a very basic principle of psychotherapy. You do not speak of your past in therapy so that your therapist can understand what happened; you speak so that you may hear yourself speaking the truth about your own life. In the process of therapy, you will become so familiar with, and so understanding of your pain, that you will also become immune to its shame; so that eventually your traumas will become just bare facts, which you can look at without anger, without hidden resentments, without a desire for satisfaction ... and then you will know that you are healed.

I am soooo not there yet.... but it's a goal, right?