Thanks ECHOES, that is exactly what i was worried about -that I would be misinterpreted - and why I am probably not going to do anything - I was talking about this at work and someone said why would you do that?, do you like him? - I trust him, I respect him.. but I had never thought about if I like him - I have no aspirations of friendship - I saw him as a coach, If I could have had more therapy with him I would have because we sorted a lot of things out in quite a short span of time - so No I dont want him to think about me and No I dont want to know about his personal life - I just would like to know that he is ok - so I guess I've made my decision - thanks P7