Ok cant get the quote thing to work so forgive me for being a bit disjointed,

Hi Kim,

Yes I knew he was ok when he was back at work on an intellectual level - I think it's my seeing is believing kicking in - or hearing is believeing in this case. But the more I think about it the dumber it seems to me - he's back at work that is enough

and as to Reconnect? that's a scary word - that implies a connection and for a long time I have made sure that I have not connected with anyone - not trusted anyone - I have stood alone and that way I relied on myself alone and would not be let down anymore - I trust more people now since therapy but connect? that's stil a scary word for me, so I think thats another reason why I didnt know the "right" thing to do - I always second, thiird and fourth guess myself these days - questioning everything I do -

thanks for your replies P7