P7, I just threw those things out there to think about. I don't think it has to influence your decision. I still think it's very nice to be thought of by another and I also think it just feels good to express our concern for another.

I think I probably misinterpreted because I was speculating and had only the information in your first post. Now that you've said more, and especially about second-guessing and worry about the 'right' thing to do, I might have replied differently. So misinterpretations can be ironed out as we go

If you're like me, second-guessing and worry can prevent me from being spontaneous. That's something I'd like to change and hope to through therapy.

I think the 'right' thing to do is what's in your heart. If we get misinterpreted, then we can address that at that time. Doing can be misinterpreted. Not doing can be misinterpreted / analyzed too. So follow your heart. I think it would be thoughtful and caring for you to let him know you're thinking of him and wishing him well.