Okay Sqrl, I can't say I fully understand all that you've said here, so with that in mind, my response is this:

There are dynamics to my particular situatin with my family that I'm not willing to publish in public that add a further dimension to this issue of forgiveness. This issue, and gosh I really hate having to be vague like this, is one that gives I believe the very spin on the situation that you are referring to.

First of all, I've already extended a certain amount of forgiveness, but only about certain things, that makes the process almost null and void, because have I really forgiven at all, if I harbored unforgiveness for some things? This is a question I ask myself. I'm not claiming to have it all figured out, I think I'm just saying that at least now I can begin the process on the right "track".

Second, I admit that setting myself up for disappointment is one of my biggest downfalls. I'm a hopeless optismist and when that optimism doesn't bare fruit, I'm deeply disappointed. But on that same front. I'm a work in progress...always thinking, always searching, always evaluating myself and my thoughts and making continual progress at a fairly consistant pace.

I will say you've given more to think about.
thanks sqrl, I can always count on you to bring fresh perspective. tc xoxo