Please don't feel confused,,at least about his behavior..

What he is doing is wrong lulu. No more to say about that. It is wrong.

If you have any hope of changing his behavior,,he has to understand that there is consequences..

Sit with him...explain that his behavior is hurting you terribly,,that it is threatening your marrage and that it must stop.

Suggest counseling,,and that you would be glad to be part of it..and that your greatest wish is to put this behind you and continue with your lives..

But if he is adament and refuses and continues to abuse you(and your child) with language and this selfish nonsense..advise him your next conversation will be with a lawyer...

With care,

Lenny