You seem to have a very healthy attitude regarding your particular fetish Kelly. Your life seems full and established.
You say your wife may chime in? Is she struggling with aspects of this?
Based upon your description it would seem that you have come to terms with the trama that moved you here and are accepting of the tangents.
I'm not quite sure how we can be of support but please let us know...our membership is lifestyle varied....we are open and affirming..and we work hard on limiting any form of judgement...
Make yourself a great day...
Lenny