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Originally Posted by Lenny
Please don't feel confused,,at least about his behavior..
What he is doing is wrong lulu. No more to say about that. It is wrong.
If you have any hope of changing his behavior,,he has to understand that there is consequences..
Sit with him...explain that his behavior is hurting you terribly,,that it is threatening your marrage and that it must stop.
Suggest counseling,,and that you would be glad to be part of it..and that your greatest wish is to put this behind you and continue with your lives..
But if he is adament and refuses and continues to abuse you(and your child) with language and this selfish nonsense..advise him your next conversation will be with a lawyer...
With care,
Lenny
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Thank you Lenny my real name is Laura (lulu is a nickname my brother in law calls me)
As for the saga it continues. I am spying I figured out his password and actually read what he sent wow !!! I told him after Christmas this would be over.He sais a few years ago he was going to couseling but he never did. The mental abuse was bad enough this behavior is not forgivable. The cyber sex has been going on for at least 3-4 years. I tried to give him what he wanted a couple of years ago , but he went bact to the same behavior. The funny thing is that he thinks there's nothing wrong with it. I even asked how he would feel if I told men what I could do down right nasty things to them , what would he do then. His answer is to kill them. Then tell me why what he is doing is alright. I thank you for answering , I keep running the same things over & over in my head and still coming to the same conclusion , I am much better thatn that.
Laura
