If you know you turn into a super ***** when you don't take your meds, then why don't you just take them and prevent that from happening? Bipolar doesn't just go away; it has to be treated and managed properly in order to have a somewhat normal life. I think if you work on yourself some and get yourself where you need to be that maybe she will notice that you are trying to keep things under control.... such as the tantrums. Maybe she thinks the tantrums are abusive in some way. And, maybe if you take your meds and show that you can take care of yourself then she won't feel that she has to take care of you. Just some ideas. I wish you all the best.