hi Kiya, Phoenix, and Sunrise

im not too sure if i can help any but i was reading and saw this so if any of this helps, im glad..

setting boundaries depends on what we want from our relationship.. for example, if we want an improved work relationship, we focus on factors related to effective production and harmony with our co-workers.. we would define our own needs first by spending time in thought about our personal goals for ourselves, always mindful that our own goals are not healthy if they infringe on others goals

by keeping focus on a totally win/win scenario, we can imagine some connecting factors that that bind our own sense of well being to those of any others involved...

with a whole health approach to our common situation, we can combine individul wants/needs in mutually satisfactory ways

communication is the beginning after we have determined our personal needs/wants

related couples can succeed in a caring and sharing atmosphere, after all, these are common goals we share!