I am sorry you are going through this srengel81. I know it is hard...

Your not going to change him. Whatever has caused him to become this different person is out of your control. He may need serious help...that again is his choice to ask for it.

If you want a different reaction from him though,,you can change. Try not calling or returning any attempt of his at contacting you. Make a commitment to yourself to do that for three days..Nothing..zilch...

Then on the forth day,,answer his call...don't make one...

Then answer his questions honestly. You will not be at his beccon call,,be his doormat or take his abuse.

You married him for a husband and partner and if he can't be that,,,well Good Luck with his choices...

And please think long and hard about making "love" with this man...it sounds like his choices lately have been rather mindless and that can hurt you...long term..

Please be carefull and take control of your life...

With Care,

Lenny