Jacqui: i've done the same things that you've related. it probably had something to do with my husband wandering outside our marriage. it's funny how hindsight works, isn't it. i have certainly been unable to go to events and unable to return phone calls, etc. i'm so glad that your husband understands when you need more support than usual. i hope that in time, there will be a better understanding of where "we" come from. Jacqui, have you ever watched George Stephanopulus (NO clue on the spelling and i own it) on Sunday morning on ABC? a psych doc that i saw recently said he spoke at a convention that she went to and he suffers as we do.....Terry Bradshaw speaks out, as does the actor that plays "Sonny" on some soap opera. wooooooooohoooooooooo. Patti Davis also suffers....perhaps this is the decade where more will become educated and tend to look a little less askance when we can't handle what they can.......we can look forward to that together, okay??? xoxoxo pat