Never created a thread myself. Hope I'm not being too bold. But at my DBT group the T was asking about how we were doing on our relationships & I just said: "I dumped them all--destroyed them--not too nicely, either. Suddenly told people I didn't want to have them in my life as they were causing me too much drama or triggering me" (had friends from my bipolar support groups who were cycling & reminded me too much of my mother who was an out of control bp that caused me a lot of trauma).

So one of these friends said would I dump a marriage like that & I should discuss it in therapy & I thought, my god, I've got too many issues to discuss in therapy & I'm paying out of pocket; I can't afford friends that I need to discuss in therapy, too. I need to concentrate on my marriage in therapy. Then she started to leave me voicemails spewing stuff about how I was passive/aggressive & how she counted how many times I spoke too many times in the support group we go to & I was disruptive & I was usurping the leader's role...all this stuff that I guess she had been harboring against me that I had no idea about. So again I was triggered about my mother who would wake me up in the middle of the night when I was 10 & call me a ***** (I didn't know what the word meant) & kick me out of the house & I'd have to go out to the garage or walk down to the Safeway (when I got a clue to sleep in my clothes with change on me & my father--who was absent but told me to call his secretary to come pick me up).

So this out of the blue accusations was scary for me. So basically, I feel like I am incapable of judging what other people think about me so I am severing all relationships. So relationships--GONE...don't think I'll try again. My 2 grown kids & my husband I will concentrate on.--Suzy Anyone else have troubles like this??