I totally get this. I have the same problem as I have been molested as well and being examined is very traumatic for me. I would say that if she really doesn't want to see the doc again then I wouldn't force her to. perhaps like others said going tothe next town for a female would be better? I know i wouldn't want the 80 year old man working on me either.. its just too triggering. I hope she makes out ok whatever happens.