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Old Sep 27, 2003, 07:12 AM
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Hope all is well with you hun

To answer your questions..... well as you probably know by now there are a few of us who came from the ConquerAnxiety.com forums....there were sooo many lasting friendships made there - truly amazing. I never thought that we would all connect here and to make so many more friendships? Truly wonderful I am amazed at everyone here.....such intelligent, supportive and amazing people.

If I may say so....this site has been a godsend. I am finding that it is much more stimulating emotionally (which is a good thing). I had a couple of bad experiences on the CA board which were draining to me and as well I found the way it was closed with only a week notice sent all of us anxiety sufferers out onto the street without a net.....a scary time for sure. This site has been the net catching us Thank you Jill for finding it

Ahhh now then...support and enabling....my view only
Support is when you are there for the person no matter what their choices are....you will give them a shoulder to cry on...to vent...etc Enabling is when you let that support take over your thoughts and they are controlling you.

Shortened version support is your control...enabling is not your control (it is the person you are supporting)...just my thoughts.

I think that there are some great things happening here on the site for recovery...however I am the type that looks at the positive (as we all know eh? ) I was hoping that there could be some categories specifically geared towards recovery...the "avatar" thread comes to mind ....having that thread in a section as well as other topics in that sense would be a good idea (again just my thoughts)

Great questions Fuzzy....getting my brain working early here this morning is good


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown
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