all - thanks for your comments. I really shouldnt have posted that, I don't agree with it either but when I read that blurb it bothered me a lot, because I have this secret fear that some day my T will rise up and tell me "that's enough coddling, everything that has ever happened to you is your own fault and I'm so tired of it" - that IS NOT what therapy is all about and you've confirmed it in a dozen ways.

by the way, "patient" is not such a bad term - it comes from a Latin word meaning to suffer, and heaven knows, T patients certainly suffer a lot.