Hi Kiya and all, ive been following along as much as i can and i hope my thoughts arent intruding

there seems to be agreement that we dont want our feelings or personal spaces trampled on... thats a good place to start and you are taking into account that you dont find the rudeness factors attractive.... that makes me smile too cause i feel the same way when i am treated rudely, no fun!

ok, no trampling and no rudeness... there you are tho, in a shared space and someone starts talking... Kiya you said you would respond but if didnt like the person would move away... thats good and fine too... you get to choose when to connect with others and you never need to if you feel unsafe..

what are the feelings when the person you are not really interested in/dont want to talk to starts talking and you decide to give the experience some time so you can learn more about your feelings?

is it fear? does the other person bore and not interest you? do you feel inadequate because there is no connection developing ? maybe you fear that this inability is going to have a large and lasting impact on your future(it is already impacting the present) ... maybe you fear you'll never grow out of it.... it takes time but you can first build the inner trust you need to assert yourself...

decide what level of kindness you would like to receive in life and assert that same amount towards others... grant them all the same rights that you grant yourself.. connecting is a two way relationship.... dont give less than you want to receive, but dont expect more than another can give...

dont know if this helps, i'll keep reading and hope you find your solutions!