for me it is usually feeling unsafe. perhaps this particular circumstance comes up most the time with others specifically because i fear it (in the genre of attracting that which we have to work on most) but I find that i am a magnate for people who are attracted to me and I don't want to be with. I can't shake them! like fleas to a dog. Random people approach me in the street (or did when I went out more), on the bus, in public places, even in the clinic. i try all the basics; nod, smile, get a book. Nod smile, go to a different room. See them in advance and hide... that one doesn't do so many favors for me (once ended me up in a sling - long story, don't ask - just remember avoidance isn't always good). I don't want to be the mean gal and say "Look! Don't you get it yet?! I don't want to talk to you, see you , be nice to you.... I want you to leave me alone!!!!!" I'm just not like that. But i'm also really tired of being sought. I suppose the flip side is that I have a hard time getting the courage to talk to those people I do want to be around. I feel that I am a burden and a loser and i'd be doing them a favor by leaving. I'm not looking for an intimate relationship - just friends (and no "benefits").
yeah>?