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Old Dec 13, 2008, 11:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Kiya View Post
I dunno anymore... I mean, "boundaries" isn't a psych term, ja? I just don't see why they work in her favor and not in mine. I guess that is why i am so grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr about it.
I do trust her more than most ppl and she does seem to be there often for me.... she even called me tonight after i left her a message about my panic attack and flashback.
I just don't see the difference between my needs and her needs surrounding me. I would prefer T to not confer about me with others. T needs to confer with all the other ppl who work with me. But it is ok for her to have what she wants and not what I want. But I can have other things that are not as important to me. Yet i guess i have to trust that she knows what is best for me?
(((kiya))) Howdy. I don't think that T's NEED to confer and share data with you about everything you discuss with all other professionals you deal with. There has to be some sort of privacy or you can't work with them very well. I'd be all sorts of bugged out.

Usually that kind of thing is only done to the highest degree of privacy and only when the T needs help from another professional on a specific issue. When that happens, they don't give names or identifying data, and the information provided is only limited to the problem at hand. Only other thing I can think of in terms of information sharing is on a consensual basis or an emergency basis thingy. I don't like it when my T talks to others, but in the past he's had to here and there to get things done. I still don't like it though. We limit that as much as possible.

Personally, I don't think anyone knows what is best for me except for me. My T sometimes thinks what's best for me, and says so. I tell him flat out when I think he is wrong (and sometimes he is wrong, and sometimes he is right). I'm in the pilot seat. I can take direction from my co-pilot, but I'm not letting them have the wheel unless I've lost control and about to crash.

It is possible that your T misunderstood what you explained to her about your mom and the vacuuming too.
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