i am not sure wht to do, there are tons of ob/gyn in our town, many female, but i don't know much about any of them. originally she was supposed to see the old man, and was ok with it but the office decided she should be seen by the new woman dr in the practice. although i can teach her to do her self exam etc, i am still not sure how comfortable i am with her taking hormones without being checked out first. i guess i could take her to a pediatrician for a checkup. i wonder if the local midwives do exams? surely they would be a little kinder and gentler than this woman was. problem is i am housebound agoraphobic, and i can't go with her. it is obviously not something her father could go with her or even truly understand, and unfortunately one of my worst phobias is talking on the phone. i even have trouble talking to my family. i guess i will keep looking and see if maybe i can get more info from someone on a good female dr. this one was even rude about her sister coming in with her. wish i could send daddy in, he would put the woman in her place. thanks for all your help everyone.

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