Perhaps you could begin at your strongest point? What is it that you do well? There has to be something that you enjoy doing, and can do... an activity or such... anything. Focus on this area, bring others into it.. so they may see and respect you for this. As you become more respectful of yourself (it grows with compliments also) you will be more self assured and won't require the opinions of others so much.... it's a process, not a happening though.