I know, I know, it is difficult. But I was given informed consent on this when he added the second role (actually the third), so I was free to decline. But I accepted and it was clearly explained to me. Doesn't stop it from being hard sometimes, though. I am very, very sensitive to the dual roles. I guess if it became intolerable, I could remove one of his roles, and unfortunately, it would have to be the T role. And I am nowhere near thinking of doing that. I think the "no confidentiality" thing is largely tolerable to me only because I really trust my T. I trust him to only share information that will not hurt me. Sometimes his judgment may be different from mine on this, but I really do trust him. And he said when we are all done, he will tear up the contract for the second role, and he will be just my therapist again! I am looking forward to this moment as a kind of rite of passage, a momentous signifier that my divorce is over!