I think also if we are feeling a little insecure (a little! ) then whatever they say can be misinterpreted - my old T after I had told him about being abused as a child and that I was ashamed of he said oh tha's nothing I've heard a lot worse - hmmm translated for me - geez you wimp get over it why are you wasting my time! -

the same with suicidal thoughts - he said - well we all have thoses thoughts sometime! eek ! you mean everyones as crazy as me?! so I asked a few people and they hadnt had those types of thoughts - guess he was just trying to make me feel less crazy -

I think a lot of the time we (I) am doing a balancing act and whatever the T says will be misinterpreted by me - there's that insecurity again! LOL