Yes, I find it very difficult to sustain friendships. One of the ones I just "dumped" actually counted the times I called her (on her phone voicemail machine, I guess) & said I wasn't initiating calling her enough! Well, when she never answers the damn phone I quit calling! I don't believe in "keeping score" with friends. Sometimes one person needs more time & attention & then it might be the reverse.

Wow, when I told her the relationship was not serving either of us well (in a healthy way) then the hidden wrath of all sorts of things she was harboring against me came out. I was shocked. That just proved to me it was not a good relationship. But I am just so wary now. I don't want to enter into another "friendship" at all.

I do have my husband & children (grown now).--Suzy