I'm really sorry you are going thru this too. Just remember that to him its about control. He hurt you and you would think he would feel bad enough to stop hurting you but i think he's testing your limits of how much you can take before you break and let him have the easy way out (you end it- so obviously you gave up on him). Best advice given to me was stop answering the phone. Change your number and give it to an impartial person if he needs to run messages. i know exactly how sad it is that he has a gf already (mine finally admitted a girl kissed him 2 weeks ago- that is 2 weeks after he dumped me and that he wont work on us b/c he likes her now. We've only been talking about divorce for a month and i made every mistake of begging and pleading him to come home. It only annoys them. He's moving on quickly because she's everything im not and they are starting to date- puh-lease! Good luck with that. The people that do this to their spouses really do all play by the same rulebook. Take no responsibility and cut and run to an easier but lesser version of their spouse). I don't think anyone can tell you what to do or what to say- it'll take time and you'll get to the point where it does become all about taking care of you. He tells you about her to keep hurting you so he can have the heroes welcome if he comes home (oh you really do love me! I'll do anything to keep you. Thank you for choosing me over her). He doesn't deserve anything but to be forgotten until he's ready to make the change in himself necessary to be a husband. Until then, get rest...no sad songs...watch comedies (stupid ones)....go to the gym...go get a cocktail with girlfriends, anything to can to be the best version of you so that when he comes crawling back you are not in a panic state of mind. You will really be able to see if you want him back or not. Good luck- you are loved by many people