Hi Muilt
I'm a health yeacher. I was in your daugther position, BUT it was harder because I went USA no English speaker. I had my professional degree wich
help me to get my job as a health teacher. I went into a deep depression.
I taugth 1st to 8th grader from public school system at chgo. No parents support me as you daughter has.
The way that I cope was, telling myself that I was the one to decide been a teacher, that this is not the only carrer, and that I have to keep going on."Is not fair for you to take your daugther fear and feed yours.
You need to make a difference between who are you protecting , her
oh your feeling of guilt beacuse you feel you don't have the power to protect her. If we become codependant we can't help anyone.
It is important for you to have the power to separte your feeling and the ones that belongs to her. Don't take yours and hers. Let her tell you how she feel and let her decided. Let her take charge of her life and even fell and hurt herself. I know sounds terrible, but sometimes our kids think that we have to take cares of their worries and make them ours.
I have in many,many times let my daugther felt and she stand up, and learnd from that, even thouhg I'm close to her to support her, but not to make her dessicion.
Hope this cann help you. YOU ARE VERY IMPORTANTPERSON, JUST TEACH AND BE CLOSE NOT IN HER POSITION JUST WATCHING HER GROWING
GENNOAH
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Originally Posted by multipixie9
my daughter has been needing huge amounts of support. she is kinda falling apart in her job as special ed teacher(1st year). she has crying jags, panic attacks, depression and has never been quite this way before. i've sent her to my t for some short term help. but i want to run away from her because i feel like she's drowning and pulling me under with her. i hate feeling that way about my daughter. my mom never was able to be there for me very well and i don't want to be like her, but i am feeling panicked myself when she calls and i feel angry. then i feel selfish for feeling bad about my daughter. i want to dig a hole, crawl in and pull the top over me and hide. i am so sick of being so darn reactive to life. grrr. why can't i just be able to detach and help without feeling her feelings so strongly that i think i'm gonna suffocate? i am angry with me. i need a local support group.
2 christmas parties coming up and i'd rather do almost anything else but go to parties. they make me feel horrible and i hate that about me. i lead a quiet life and just don't have a bunch of small talk to use to pass the time. i wish i could not feel this way. it sounds so pathetic to whine over having to go to parties, but it really makes me suffer. grr.
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