i think that is really lovely. some people are so thoughtful with gifts. i'm kinda jealous... i'm really not at all thoughtful with gifts. i kinda wish i was... but the fact is that i am not.

it is something that i feel kinda badly about, actually. i see that it is quite a skill... to notice and reflect on what it is that other people are likely to appreciate and to... take a risk. take a leap of faith and go out and get something (that has occurred to one) and then give it...

i'm too scared. firstly i just don't seem to be able to put two and two together when it comes to actually selecting something that they are likely to like. secondly because... i'm too scared to take that risk. too afraid of being criticised for it. too afraid of them hating it and wondering why on earth i thought that would be appropriate. my mother has a lot to answer for, no doubt... but i think that noticing and selecting and giving is a skill, indeed... and i think that is just lovely :-)