Sunny, she isn't a blank slate, but I know what you mean. Really, she often talks a lot for being pyschoanalytically oriented. Yes she knows that about herself, as she told me when I mentioned it.

I am debating mentioning the WE. I wonder if she said it intentionally. It's just that if I do bring it up, then I'm likely to get more details. I know how I am. If I know too much about her it will influence me greatly. Already I want to dress like her. She said she is a jazz fan. Jazz has always been one of my least favorite styles of music, yet now I am looking at it with more interest, determined to like it---SHE likes it so there must be something likable about it. Maybe knowing more will help define the separateness. Maybe it will widen the gap of the powerful, successful, knowledgable therapist and the unsuccessful, no-life patient. That gap intimidates me very much.

Perhaps Mouse is right. I have been noticing that my times of struggle often are a result of reality slamming up against fantasy (yeah, I told T) so maybe it would be calmer if that fantasy got lost. I can see that, yet it feels too soon.

I don't know. I want to feel like I'm talking to a therapist. It's a different relationship than a social relationship and that's why it seems that her private life stuff doesn't belong in there.

I think I feel like she's forcing it on me---Oh!!..that may be the whole issue.