i am not sure it wasnt just the drink talking, i dont know him very well now, only had contact this last week or so, but last night i decided to offer a place to go for christmas if he was to be on his own, i had a msg bk today, he lives were we grew up and its a very sociable village were everyone nows everyone else, he replied that all the single ppl get togeather for food and drink, he only has christmas eve and day off but he said he would try to get to see me, i am not hiolding out to much hope

also its would be our dads b/day on the 17th and he has been gone now 21yrs, and mums b/day the 1st jan though shes been gone 40yrs brothers b/day would be also towards end of jan and he has been gone 15yrs
so its not the best time of year for either of us,