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Originally Posted by pinksoil
I think if you have little boundaries growing up, you can go to one of two extremes-- no boundaries as an adult or major boundaries (sometimes even both) to compensate for the lack when growing up.
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This is what I did. I was a follower with zero boundaries until I became a teenager and my older cousin helped empower me a bit then I jumped to the opposite extreme and wouldn't let anyone in. Four therapists and 30 years later my boundaries can go from allowing a lot of closeness to blocking a person out if needed. Rarely do I need the wall to go up for a total block. I can't even remember when this was last needed.
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