Hey. No... I don't really think that finding another place to live is an option. I will make it clear to my flatmate that if this happens again (e.g., if she kicks a hole in the wall or physically hurts someone on the property) then I will leave. Even if it means I end up going home early... I'll bring the department into it if necessary. There was an incident earlier in the year... Not with her, but with someone else... A guy (very slight build but I imagine he has a bit of a temper on him). Going out with some girl and they had a very dramatic relationship... Car windscreen ended up with a fist through it and bruises ended up on her face etc... Court... The whole department turned out to support him (he said she did it to herself). Professors giving character witness... Saying he was a decent guy... Then admitting that they didn't know him outside the work context at all. Judge wasn't terribly sympathetic to the support he had (about the whole department turned out to the court case whereas she is unemployed). He was found guilty but the judge said 'lets not allow this sentence to ruin his life / future career'. So... Guess I've seen the departmental stance on violence already (people close ranks). Only trouble is that flatmates ex is in the department, too. They broke up because he cheated on her. So... He decided not to press charges mostly out of guilt, I expect.

But I will not tolerate it, no. I will not be made to feel physically unsafe (or unwelcome for that matter) in a place where I'm meant to share one third. At this point... I simply don't even want to see her... I know it will be drama, drama, drama, 'I'm so losing it I so need people to support me right now mememememe'. And... I need to do the whole 'I can tolerate your stinking the house out with pot every now and then, I can tolerate your shutting me out of the social circle, I can even tolerate chatting to you about your personal problems occasionally even though you aren't there for me at all but I WILL NOT TOLERATE VIOLENCE OR THE THREAT OF IT AND SO NOW I"M ASSERTING MYSELF AND I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND EVEN LESS YOUR UNCONDITIONAL FRIEND AND I WILL NOT SUPPORT OR CONDONE THIS'. It is not going to go down at all well... The other person who was involved last night (who showed up with best friend apparently) is more friendly to me... She seemed a little abashed that she didn't think to check on me last night. She also seemed a little surprised / stunned when I expressed a little surprise about ex not pressing charges and bitter relief at not needing to give testimony in court (that really hadn't occurred to her).

Yeah... The crunch has certainly come with respect to my being honest and upfront about how I feel. I don't expect it will go down particularly well... But... The time has come. I could tolerate a lot but this one is over my boundaries...