Look at some of the other sites that Doc John has listed and see if any of the quizzes can help.
small disorder means something is not cemically right, I am not a doctor, and i have had very little expericne with gifted childern, the only thing i did when I did work with some, was to try and understand how there brain was working.
When you mentiond that he loved computers, most gifted love to sit and either play games on them or higher palystation type games...

I am only saying what I did when I worked with a young boy about the age of 8, and he was always full of hate like you describe and would go off on his own and hung around with the trouble makers. His mom is almost at her wits end. but he has had hosptial stays, for one reason or anthoer because of his aggresive attudie...

Not sure what else to say, you are both in my prayers and hopeing you can find some answers out there.
I knwo getting someoen to go to a doctor is a very hard thing at any age. But if you show it is because you lvoe him it hopefully should make him accpet it better ??? Not sure do not know where you stand on the idea of having him watched by a doctor to see how far his "gift" goes..

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