my daughter is married to a marine. when he came back from iraq he wasnt the same. he needs therapy but its hard to get him to go. it is tearing their marriage apart. there is help through the service(if married)that you can go to, usually on base. I guess it would depend on your situation really before anyone can give you more advice. are you married, do you live on base, has he been sent to iraq or other place and if so did he come back different? let me know some more.