Hmmmm, sex talk can do that to ya sometimes. Brings up all sorts of stuff. Or could it be you have ADHD?

I want to add that my fling with the Greek sea captain was before marriage. I never cheated on my H.

I was pretty pissed off indeed. We were on vacation and already not sleeping together. But I went into his bedroom and told him I didn't like how he had told the girls that story (he had given yuck details), that I had shared that with him in confidence and it wasn't OK to repeat it to anybody, especially not our girls. He was not happy I was so adamant about this, as any dissent or criticism from me was not tolerated in our marriage, but hey, when you have decided to get divorced, you can speak your mind a bit more. The yucky thing was, when I was telling him this, he was acting like it was no big deal, like why are you getting so upset about this? He had his back to me and could hardly give me the time of day. He just sat there watching porn on his laptop. Nice way to spend the time while on vacation with his family, no?

It's a mystery to me too. I think he has no sense of what is appropriate, but also, I think that is a way to try to humiliate the spouse and communicate to the child how you have the upper hand in the relationship. Kind of a one upsmanship, whereas it just hurts the child. It's basically very self-centered: "me first, me first." Sorry you had to experience that, Simcha.