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multipixie9 · 01:11 AM

I'm jumping in the middle of the conversation, but it is highly inappropriate for a parent to tell the children ANYthing about the other parent's sexual behavior or about the couple's sex-life. That is called "Emotional Incest". It elevates a child into the parents intimacy issues and that is wrong. The kind of talk that was mentioned has no healthy reason to exist. It sounds more like the parent has some kind of perverted motive in talking to his children this way and then to sit around viewing porn online when his wife is trying to talk to him. There's lots of unhealthy stuff going on there.

There are proper times and ways to discuss sexual issues with your kids - not that it is not still kinda awkward. There's just something about sex that is so private that most of us feel creepy talking to most other folks about it.

Then if you have the deep misfortune to be sexually abused it adds layers of complexity, pain, confusion, misery, shame.. and a whole lot more besides.

I do go to a same-gender T and she's an awesome person, but this subject is really hard and I buried some things so deep I'm surprised I ever recovered "the rest of the story". I feel very fortunate that my T is someone I can trust and that has to be THE most important quality in someone I would ever be able to share such private issues with. Lots of Trust!!!