Yes, I have talked about sex with T.

I think I had sort of hinted about some sexual abuse in my past early in therapy, but hadn't gone farther than that. One day (this was VERY early in therapy - like in first few weeks, I'd guess) T started telling me out of the blue about a book he was reading called something like "God and Sex" and started going into what it was about (it actually IS about God and sex....). I was kind of sitting there, half-dissociated, shocked that this was happening, when T said something that make me snap out of it and say "that happened to ME" - it was such a weird thing that he said and it was like a page out of my past. And that opened a lot of stuff up.

I have often wondered about that conversation. T rarely tells me about things he is reading, etc. I kind of think it was his way of pointing out "look, we can talk about sex here, I'll go first to show you". It sort of "normalized" the topic, and was probably the beginning of my "real" therapy in some ways.

T was also the first person to swear in session. I was shocked when he tossed out a bad word (around the same time as the above) - but thrilled. It totally relaxed me, and told me "we don't have to be all formal here - if we need to, we can use whatever words we want".

T is so smart