That was a very special post muffy...

I congratulate your sister on accepting the miracle of recovery. That is always our choice..to accept or not.

"Help" is an interesting word in that within it lies intrinsic complexity. Giving fish and teaching to fish are very old principles and thrive today in the world of addictions. It is always hard to know when to give us a pole instead of a fillet...and harder still when we sell either or both to feed another appetite..

And always the question of motives...why do we help? Is it to fullfill some pennence for unresolved shame or to simply feel better about ourselves and use the suffering of others to bring peace to a personal depression...?

In your story,,,you both did well with the fish and the fishing...enough of each to learn humility and the skills and confidence needed to stand alone..

You both have my deepest respect,,what you have accomplished as individuals within a family is very rare but highly coveted...

With Care,

Lenny