Hi Saluiki girl,

I relate to what you've written on may levels. Here's what helps me. Some do's and don'ts.

Look around you . At everyone , Not just the ones who are super beautiful young and perfect. See if you are looking at the magazines and Tv and movies.

I find when I look around I.m one amoung the majority and the other is a select group. Find the things you like about yourself and hold onto those and be grateful. Every one has some thing beautiful about them both physically and menatlly and emotionally.

Oh . and stay away from men who date younger women . Just in case your over thirty.

Don't ask others what they think of you . I got more of that then I needed long ago and it was all negative.

Compliments do not come around often . I've had so few. I got one the other day from a man in a parking lot . He said I just have to say something about your XXXXX

and I said

Thank you so much . I really needed that today. and I really meant that. I REALLY needed it I was in that Im ugly mode on my way to the dentist didn't help.

Then he said. I saw you in the store . And he said you look good both comming and going.

Wow . We got in our vehicals and left . I thought I have to pay this forward .

Do that . Pick out some woman or man walking by tell them some thing about themselves you find attractive and no "soft truths" .
Really mean it . I could do it more often than I do.

It will come back to you and probably not from the person you hope will give you the compliments .


Aurora