Thanks SweetCrusader and ozzie. Hugs are much appreciated.

He is an arse. He does these sneaky things to get to me, I'm fully aware of his intentions, but if I point it out I'm just crazy.

The timing of the refinancing is too coincidental for me to be paranoid.

Less than a week before papers were served, he was asking me for my address and needing me to have documents notarized for the quit claim deed. He was all excited that he was finally going to save something like $400 a month in payments. The house was all ready for the appraiser to walk through and give the stamp of refinancing approval. Now he's put everything on hold again. He complains about being so broke, but he'd rather play these games than save money.

He insists that child support is based on expenses, not income, so if he continues to keep his expenses extremely higher than mine he thinks that the court will order me to pay him, even though he makes 20K a year more than I do.

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