what an intense experience!

my therapist cried long before i was able to...we were sharing some nasty memories and all of a sudden she is crying...well that sort of stopped the memory right in its tracks and sent us into full panic...

the adult felt like "oh crap! we made her cry...that's not good...never had that happen before...now what do we do???"

our child alter went..."oh crap....dr is crying...we made her sad she's not ever going to let us back....dr is crying"

yeah it threw us for a major loop...now we know better...she cries easily..it still catches us offguard but it does validate our stuff. we are not good at crying yet..years of not letting the bastards win by seeing a tear are etched into us but we are slowly letting those walls down.