All of you have made the most wonderful comments.

I completely agree that there is unintentional abuse by parents, care givers and other well intentioned adults in authority. The abused are children, spouses, lovers, friends, neices, nephews, animals and heaven knows what else.

As the abused, we must work on our own healing. We need to be very proactive in our healing. We must be your own best friend, and that is a very, very hard task. Remember, whether the abuse was unintentional or on purpose, there is not and will never be an excuse for abuse.

Jan