T gave my H and I gifts on two different occasions. Once he brought us a huge bouquet of flowers from his garden and had us divide it in two, stem by stem, and each take half. Message: you can create two beautiful somethings from one. Another time, he made us each a little divorce survival kit, which were envelopes with symbolic items in them. He's big into symbolism and has tried to get us through this in as humane a way a possible.

He has never given me a tangible gift of my own, but I love his intangibles. I guess he has given me food before, like the carrot cake he gave me a couple of weeks ago when I hadn't eaten all day. And he gave me an orange once and chocolate chip cookies and some filberts. And one time he went downstairs to the cafe and bought me a big bottle of water before I got there, because he knows how I like to always have water at hand. I like the food--it makes me feel homey and cared for.