In 4yrs, My crying has changed and developed ....I can tell now looking back, that my tears at first were just the first layer of the onion, now I do not have much control over when I cry, sometimes the deepness of the tears feel like a volcano erupting...my whole body is wreck with convulsion...I know when they've been healing tears, because I feel very tired afterwards adn its then I know that my body has expelled some age old emotion thats been stuck/frozen....I don't say crying is something I like to do infront of other people, but I do appricate their reason now...they are not what I use to think they were, or what I was raised to think they were, ie, pity seeking, they truely are a wonderful gift...and only being with someone else that knows that will you feel safe enought to cry...our bodys know whos safe and who isn't, who understands and who doesnt...and its when you do not make a big deal out crying that you know you have "arrived"